Heart to Heart

Birthdays and Bible Studies

I recently had a birthday.  The big thirty is getting closer each year.  Where does the time go?  If you know, let me know.  I gotta say, my favorite gift I received this year was a devotion book from my sister-in-law, Jennifer.  Unexpected, but totally needed.  Life gets busy, hectic, and sometimes just hard.  As a woman, daughter, wife, sister, and friend, expectations are high and responsibilities are overflowing just like my laundry.  We give so much of ourselves to everyone else, organizations, our church, our jobs, the list goes on.  This birthday gift simply reminded me to take a moment and make sure I’m giving back to myself.  We are spread so thin in the everyday hustle + bustle.  I needed a “check-up” on my relationship with the One who truly matters.  That my friend, is Jesus.

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So I begin to dig into this bible study, Finding I Am by Lisa Terkeurst.  Gotta be honest, it took a few devotions until I really began to relax and enjoy the study.  My heart and my eyes began to open to God’s presence in my life.  Grace and healing was poured over me for the next 6 weeks.  I loved doing the study with Jennifer.  Not only was she an accountability partner, but someone to share my favorite verses with, my weaknesses, and how it was growing + challenging me.  This birthday gift turned into a gift that kept giving for 6 weeks, y’all!  I absolutely fell in love with God all over again.

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When the study was coming to an end, Jennifer and I were both somewhat sad.  This had become a healthy routine to our day.  I loved having my cup of coffee and starting or ending my day devoting time to God’s Word.  We decided we couldn’t stop there.  We went to our local Lifeway and picked out another bible study.  This time, Armor of God by Priscilla Shirer.  Over the past couple months, the devotions had become regular conversation with my clients, friends, and family.  We now have some of the girls in our community doing the studies!  Isn’t it amazing how God works?!  Something as simple as a birthday gift has chain reacted into encouragement in our community and friendships.  If you would like to be a part of our Women’s Bible Study Group, please message me on our Facebook page HERE and I will get you connected, gal!

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Also, isn’t this floral top so precious!?  I love the print, colors, and material!  It’s one of the softest shirts I own.  During the sweltering summer, I’m all about light + comfy material!  I’ve had lots of people ask about my Journaling Bible.  All these details can be found below!  I hope you’ve been encouraged, felt like you’re not the only one struggling in your faith walk, been motivated, and enlightened on some great new devotions to dive into!  Girlfriends, life is tough, we’ve got to stick together!  I’m praying for you this week!

Floral Top {Cleo Madison} | Jewelry | Journaling Bible

Love,

Fallon

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Keeping it Southern

Many of you have been asking how the Southern Detour Boutique is doing.  It’s going just dandy! It is definitely keeping my mom a busy little bee.  She gets new clothes + jewelry in every week.  If you haven’t been by, you need to go {like run}!  They have been doing so well and enjoy seeing + visiting with all of you each day!

We have loved the loyal customers in our community!  We want to say, “THANK YOU” for supporting a local, small business!  Your shopping goes a long way and is truly appreciated from the bottom of our hearts.  We hope you all will get the chance to come see + shop our unique, vibrant, comforting, friendly, southern boutique.  It’s one-of-a-kind!

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Photo credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

Please be sure to follow along on our Facebook and submit your email at the top of this page.  You can find our store hours + location, plus stay up-to-date on giveaways, blog posts, new trends, and be the first to know when our shipments arrive!  Also, we have an exciting event coming soon {even more reason to follow SD}!!  Stay southern, friends!

Love,

Fallon + The SD Crew

 

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10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner {MEN, it’s February 14th}, I thought it would be perfect to re-share my ideas on how to improve your marriage.  I hope you get a little something from this for your honey…

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Now, by writing this post, I am in no way stating I have a perfect marriage, pointing fingers or saying you should take my advice.  These are things that work in my life and if they can encourage you, that is my purpose.  Marriage is something you have to work at everyday.  I am still learning so much about being married.  Erik and I have been married going on 5 years.  I am extremely proud of the relationship we have.

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I believe marriage is something holy, sacred and should be cherished.  Marriage is taken so lightly in today’s society.  Couples move in together, get married, affairs here, affairs there, get divorced, families torn apart, kids lives and world’s shaken.  I do not think marriage is something that should be taken so lightly.  Blunt, yes.  Honest opinion, absolutely.

It’s not a give & take type of bond or game that you share with someone.  I have learned {in these 4 short years} if you both want the other person to be truly happy and you strive to make that happen everyday, you cannot fail.

Here are 10 ways to improve your marriage:

  1. Prayer.  When we were getting married, my grandparents told me to always put God first in our marriage.  I believe this with all of my being.  Before you get married, pray.  Before you buy a home, pray.  Before you make big decisions together, pray.  Small decisions? Pray.  Before you go to sleep, pray!  I pray for my husband every night.  I pray for his job, safety, family, his relationship with God, mindset, and for us.  Prayer will always get you through tough times, but pray in the good times too.  Keep God center of your marriage and He will guide you, together.
  2. Communication.  I tell Erik everything.  Do I drive him crazy?  Yes, most likely.  We make our plans and decisions together.  If something is bothering me, I tell him.  Ladies, if you haven’t figured it out already, men are NOT mind readers.  It’s so much better to talk it out than to bottle it up and end up walking out.  Do not let situations escalate when you could have set time aside to communicate.  No matter how big or small the topic is, always talk things through with your spouse.
  3. Listen.  It’s comforting to know you have someone else to bear your burdens, share your happiness, carry your worry, and listen to your thoughts.  Sometimes all it takes is silence.  When Erik gets home I want to know all about his day, the good and the bad.  This is something I work at everyday.  I love giving my two cents.  I am learning to listen and give him my full attention more {I’m still working on this one}.
  4. Support.  When you believe in your spouse and let them know they have your support, it makes your relationship that much stronger.  Erik has listened to me babble on about my dreams and future.  Sometimes, as big as they seem, they feel that much closer knowing I have his support.  A lot of my clients wonder how I enjoy going to horse shows, clinics, and spending countless afternoons at the barn.  It’s because I support my husband and it brings me joy seeing him do something he loves.  Instead of thinking about self, think about your spouse and marriage first.
  5. Commitment.  When I married Erik I vowed in front of God, all of our friends and family that only death would do us part.  I meant that with all of my being.  When you enter into marriage, your mindset and heart needs to be completely clear and committed.  I made a promise that no matter what, we would make it work.  Sometimes in order to do this, you have to put your selfish desires aside.  You should never lose sight of the commitment you made with your spouse; whether you’re on the mountain top or in the valley, always be there for each other.
  6. Choose your battles wisely.  I learned early on not to “nitpick.”  In the grand scheme of marriage, dirty socks left on the floor and the toilet seat left up are nothing compared to 50 years of marriage.  It’s not worth arguing and ruining your night over dirty socks?  Really though.
  7. Find happiness in the little things.  It doesn’t take a dozen roses or candlelit dinner to make me happy.  Reminding myself of our blessings, coming home to a peaceful marriage, going out for breakfast, talking about our day, sitting in church together makes me happy.  It’s so easy to scroll through Pinterest or watch a movie and have false expectations of a real life marriage.  Always try to find happiness in your marriage everyday.  Do not compare you and your spouse’s relationship to anyone else’s.  Be your own kind of happy.
  8. Attention.  Life is busy.  Life is messy.  A lot of us feel like we probably work more than we are home.  Especially, if you have children!  Holy cow.  Ballgames here, dance recitals, practices, birthday parties.  There is always something to do!  I’ve learned in order to give your marriage the time it needs, you cannot say yes to every invite and event.  It’s impossible.  There are not enough hours in the day.  Erik and time spent with him is my top priority.  It may be a ridiculous busy week and something simple as running an errand together.  Was it fun?  Well, I wouldn’t necessarily call that fun, but point is…we were together.  We were able to talk, even if it’s small talk.  Just being together and giving each other attention is sometimes all you need to get through a tough week.
  9. Have fun!  Bills, payments, jobs, meetings, clients, the list goes on.  Life can be so serious and sometimes very stressful.  We pile our plates so high, we forget to have joy.  Sometimes we need to sit back, let the world keep spinning and enjoy each other!  This could be going out for coffee, a mini weekend vacation, going for a drive, or just nagging Erik until he starts laughing {at least that’s what I do}.  Always keep your spouse laughing and it makes the world spin a little easier.  Don’t get so caught up in your “to-do” list and forget to enjoy life and your marriage.
  10. Say, “I love you.”  I don’t care if you’ve been married 3 years or 30, it took love to get you that far.  Right?  You got married because you love that person.  Make sure they know you still do.  Every week, everyday, even sometimes multiple times a day {woah}.  Constantly remind your spouse of these three simple words.  It needs to be sincere, genuine and from your heart.  The word “love” is thrown around so frivolously today.  I’m talking about the real love that you don’t necessarily have to say and profess dramatically.  Our actions towards our marriage should be proving this statement daily.  But still, a little “I love you” can’t hurt, right?

If your marriage is going through a tough patch, there’s always sunshine after the rain.  If your marriage is rainbows and butterflies, get on your knees and thank the Lord.  I hope this post encouraged you, motivated you and reminded you there’s always room for improvement {always}.

If so, please feel free to share and leave me a comment letting me know!  I would love to hear your feedback.

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Happy Valentine’s Day,

Fallon

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Merry CHRISTmas!

This time of year is so joyful, hopeful, exciting, and humbling.  It is definitely my favorite season.  There are so many wonderful memories etched into my mind + heart of Christmas time.  I always look forward to making more memories every year with family and friends.  I love reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas.  Sometimes we rush the meaning of the most important day of history with all the hustle, bustle, gifts, parties, cooking, and planning.  I really love spending time dwelling on that first Christmas night.

It is so humbling to me that God would send His Son to be born in human flesh among a world full of sinners so we could one day be saved by His grace.  Gives me chills, folks.

“And in the same region there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.  And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear.  And the angel said to them, ‘Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.  For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.  And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.’  And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!'”  Luke 2: 8-14, ESV

Isn’t it such a beautiful, yet simple story?  It always, always brings tears to my eyes.  Can you imagine the fear the shepherds felt?  Can you picture Jesus being born in a little stable and laid in a manger?  The emotions of Mary and Joseph entering the world of parenthood?  Sometimes I imagine what it must have felt like to be present that night.  What a precious sight that must have been.  How amazing that God cares enough about a wretched sinner like me, that he would send His Son so I can one day have eternal life with Him in heaven.  I don’t know about you, friend, but if that doesn’t squeeze your heart, I’m not sure what would.

Christmas is a celebration of that wonderful night.  A reminder that someone will always love you, be there for you, care for you, listen to you, and has experienced every emotion you have.  It’s also a reminder that one day we won’t feel any hurt, sadness, pain, depression, anxiety, fear, bitterness, emptiness, and sorrow.  There’s everlasting life because God fulfilled His promise.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John 3:16-17

We’re all just walking each other home, friends.  Even in the dark days, we have hope and light.  Even in the valleys, we will one day be on the mountain tops.  God is with us every step of everyday.  If you ever feel alone or your faith feels small, just read the beautiful story of Christmas + the good news of life.

My family prays for peace, comfort, joy and happiness for your family this Christmas.  There are blessings all around us.  The biggest blessing we can ever receive is opening the door and letting Jesus into our hearts.  That my friend is a forever blessing.  Merry Christmas!

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Love,

Fallon and my little family

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What I Learned My First Year Of Blogging

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Photos by Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

Y’ALL!  I’ve been blogging at Southern Detour for a WHOLE YEAR!!  Holy cow, can ya believe it?!  Time has surely flown!  This is such a big accomplishment for me and Southern Detour!  I started this blog with hopes of sharing cute outfits, some encouragement, lots of adventures, tons of coffee, and the occasional cowboy.  I’ve been able to do just that and so much more…made friends, dusted off my writing skills, done lots of fun collabs + giveaways, learned about myself and what it takes to be a true blogger.

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Here are some things I’ve learned my first year of blogging:

  1. Work Hard – No one else is helping you achieve the success of your own blog.  It’s you and your computer at the end of the day.  Keeping a blog going takes a lot {and I mean, A LOT} of dedication, time, and perseverance.  I get up before work to work on the blog and sometimes come home from a 10-12 hour day at the salon to work on the blog again.  It requires a lot of work, but when the work is done, it’s worth it!  That’s a lot of work {ha}!  I’ve loved hearing feedback from my sweet followers who enjoyed posts and watching Southern Detour grow!
  2. Schedule and Plan – I am such a planner, so this one came a little easier for me.  I always tell people, the blog post I launched this week may have been written well over a month ago.  It’s all about scheduling ahead of time and staying organized.  Tip: I found the Later App for Instagram.  It has definitely saved me time in the long run keeping up with social media.  I can schedule posts in advance and not have to sit there for 10 minutes editing the picture and posting a caption while I’m at dinner with the cowboy or spending time with family at the barn.
  3. Be Original – I love reading other blogs for inspiration.  That’s all dandy, folks!  Make sure you know what your blog’s foundation is and don’t stray far from it.  I love reading fashion blogs and pulling inspiration, but I have to keep in mind, my blog is more than that.  I always strive to make sure every post has great quality, even my outfit posts.  There are a million fashion/style bloggers, so find something that makes yours original.  This is just an example, but applies to all blogs {food, travel, faith, or photography blogger, etc.}.  Be YOU because there is no one quite like you.  And you’re pretty darn special.
  4. Be Consistent – Decide in the beginning how often you’re going to post and stick to it.  I knew I would be working a full time job on top of blogging and I also lead a very busy lifestyle.  I chose once a week because I didn’t want Southern Detour to become stressful or controlling.  It’s been a year and the rest of my life hasn’t slowed down so once a week still works perfect for me!
  5. Be Still – I’ve learned in all the hustle, organizing, scheduling, and business of a blog, sometimes you just need to be still.  It takes some quiet time and stepping back to rejuvenate and reenergize yourself.  Sometimes I just don’t feel like writing.  Sometimes I draw a blank.  Sometimes I am too tired to think.  And that’s ok.  I’ve learned to take it one day at a time.  Blogging is a journey and sometimes it’s just fine to take a detour and come back later.  Don’t burn yourself out on something that should be fun and enjoyable!  Blogging is what you make of it!

I came across this quote and it perfectly explains why I love blogging:

“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans — because we can.  We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.  That’s why we paint, that’s why we dare to love someone — because we have the impulse to explain who we are.  Not just how tall we are, or thin, but who we are internally, perhaps even spiritually.  There’s something, which impels us to show our inner-souls.  The more courageous we are, the more we succeed in explaining what we know.” {Maya Angelou}

 

I just love that, don’t you?!  I’ve enjoyed sharing who I am and what I love on Southern Detour.  I am so glad my little blog is growing and prospering!  I pray over this blog and my followers.  I can’t wait to see just where this journey takes us!  Until then, celebrate ONE YEAR of adventures, detours, stories, and grace upon grace with me!  Heck, you should even go get ya a cupcake too!  Thank you for being a part of the Southern Detour community!  I couldn’t do it without you, friend!

Love,

Fallon

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Harvest In The Storm

I’d been watching Mr. Hyman plant his sweet potatoes and harvest them over the past few month as I’d pull out of my parents driveway to head home.

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There’s a hurricane passing our way this weekend.  We haven’t gotten a bad storm like this in a long time in this small town.  Our first cold front of fall is blowing in.  It was chilly and starting to mist the other night.  Everything at my parents’ farm was secure and animals tucked in tight for the storm.  We went to get our bellies full on BBQ and biscuits at a local restaurant.

We were all so tired from crazy schedules and getting ready for Hurricane Matthew this week.  As we were passing by Mr. Hyman’s field, we looked over and saw his tractor shedding lights on him and his wife trying to cover the large wooden boxes of potatoes in preparation for the storm.  The wind was blowing the tarps and light was streaming in the dark from his wife’s flashlight so he could secure them to shelter the sweet potatoes.  Love their hearts.

My dad turned that Chevrolet in before I knew it.  All five of us hopped out ready to lend our hands.  The men had the tarps covering the sweet potatoes in 30 minutes.  Mr. Hyman was so grateful.  I noticed his tired eyes and worn hands from the farming.  I was grateful too.  Thankful for people like him.  Homegrown, farming the land, providing for America in the dark, wind, and rain.

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Got me thinking.  I swear my mind never stops.

Mr. Hyman sheltering his prized sweet potatoes is how we should treat ourselves.  When we’re going through storms, trials, temptations and the wind is raging, the rain is coming down, and we can’t see through the darkness in life, we need to guard our hearts.  Don’t let the storms of life destroy you and make you bitter, depressed, and drowning in your own sorrow.  I’ve got good news, friend.  Storms pass.  And when the storm passes, there is always sunshine.  Some storms will be bigger than others.  Heck, you may even get a hurricane occasionally.  Will they leave damage and scarring?  Sure.  Just make sure to pick up the pieces of your heart after and let the Ultimate Healer put you back together.  God’s gonna take care of you, you little sweet potato, you.  There will be brighter days and helping hands along the way.  You’re never alone because God’s always holding you in His worn, scarred hands and there’s always, always people helping people.

Loving God and loving people,

Fallon

 

“They do not say in their hearts, ‘Let us fear the Lord our God, who gives the rain in its season, the autumn rain and the spring rain, and keeps for us the weeks appointed for the harvest.'” {Jeremiah 5:24}

 

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Southern Detour? + Exciting News

Where did you come up with Southern Detour?  I’ve been asked this question a few times, okay maybe a zillion – I promise I’ll get to that!  There are so many exciting things happening behind the scenes at Southern Detour.  I feel it’s the perfect opportunity to share those things with you and tell you how Southern Detour came about all in one post!

Last year, I went with my husband, parents and sister to the big ol’state of Texas for her Extreme Mustang Makeover Competition {if only I’d been blogging then…what an adventure}!!  By the way, her and her horse, Mister Twister, won and took home the check!  Isn’t he a cutie?

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On the way back to South Carolina, we were throwing names around for a possible shop in the future.  I’ve always loved clothes, especially boutique clothes!  I am very southern, born + bred.  I am so proud of my southern roots.  We were definitely drawn to having ‘southern’ a part of the name and brand.  On our 22 hour drive, we passed a sign that said DETOUR just as I was thinking SOUTHERN and it clicked.  Southern Detour.  It was perfect!!  We all loved it.  You’re always on detours, whether you’re on an adventure, navigating through your day, or just traveling through this crazy thing we call life.  Shortly after, I had thought about blogging {because our lives are just so darn interesting} and the name could not have suited me better.

Simple little story, but I’ve been blogging here for a year and never looked back since!

Just recently, my parents have taken the name further and opened a shop full of cute clothes, antiques, jewelry, art, and all kinds of trinkets in our hometown!  They have carried the name Southern Detour because it represents everything the shop is about.  It has a southern flair and they are always on a detour looking for new pieces to add to their place.  So very exciting!!

Southern Detour is now a place where you can locally shop unique pieces you can’t find anywhere else, follow along with our life’s journey on the blog, and gather to make new friends + find encouragement.  We are merging the two on the same Facebook page so there will be less confusion and you can find everything all in one simple stop!  If you’re local, come visit my mom and find the perfect piece {or two, or six} for you to take home.

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We are so excited about this new adventure for Southern Detour.  Make sure to sign up with your email and never miss a post + stay up-to-date!  Thank you so much for reading along and being apart of the Southern Detour community!

Love,

Fallon

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11 Ways to Keep A Positive Attitude

Life is tough.  Life is unfair.  Life is just plain hard to handle sometimes.  You can turn the TV or radio on for 5 minutes and become instantly saddened with all of our hopeless surroundings.  You can even log onto Facebook with the touch of your finger in 5 seconds and read something gloomy almost immediately.  How on Earth do we keep a positive attitude in a world that is so negative?  I’ve discovered and tested some true, real, and a few humorous ways to stay positive, friends:

  1. Wake up and talk to Jesus.  He’s there to listen to our problems, anxieties, and worries.  The good Lord can comfort you like no other.  And all the people said, amen.
  2. Drink a cup {or pot} of coffee.  Because…well, this needs no explanation.
  3. Most people check notifications on social media in the morning.  Instead of looking and mentally liking someone’s post or photo, take the time to leave a positive or encouraging comment!  You uplifting someone else will actually have the same positive effect on yourself!  Just try it!
  4. Get up and get yourself dressed.  You don’t have to wear a ball gown to the office, but wear something you actually like and makes you feel good about yourself, even if that takes getting up 5 minutes earlier to pick it out!  And no, pajamas do not qualify. {Insert blank face emoji}  The way you dress can set the mood for your day.
  5. Listen to positive + encouraging music while you get ready or on your way to work.  Some of my favorites are KLove, Jack Johnson Pandora Station, and George Strait {<- He’s duh man}!!
  6. Say a friendly “hello” or give a smile to everyone you pass throughout the day.  Sending that positive energy to others will certainly radiate through you!
  7. If you’re faced with an issue, tell yourself it’s not the end of the world.  ‘Cause guess what?  It’s not!  Most any problem can be worked out without panicking and letting it ruin your day.  Every little thing is gonna be alright.  Break out some Bob Marley if you just can’t handle.
  8. Communicate with your husband/family throughout the day.  Reassuring that they are having a good day will help you have a good day too.  Communication is key.
  9. Eat a snack.  There’s no way you can be positive if you’re hangry.  I know this all to well {so does my husband}.  Ice-cream always does the trick.
  10. Get outside!  Go for a walk, breathe in some fresh air, look up and see the glorious world God gave us!  That’s enough, right?!
  11. Feed yourself positive vibes in all aspects of your life and that’s what you’ll get in return.  You can’t put lemons in your sweet tea and expect it not to be sour, just sayin’.

I’m so preaching to myself as well.  This is something I work on daily.  Tomorrow, pick a few of these or all of’em and give it a try!  I guarantee your day will feel and be more positive!  I’m letting you know right now you’re appreciated just by reading my blog.  I think you are pretty great, friend!

Choose happy,

Fallon

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Little Wildflower {5 Reasons You Should Be A Wildflower + A Flower Crown}

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Photo credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

Who else loves wildflowers?!  Seems like I always go for the flowers that aren’t your ordinary, perfect, flawless flower.  This flower crown made me feel so pretty and dainty!  Totally channeled my inner wildflower, boho spirit!  It also got me thinking about 5 reasons we should be wildflowers.  I know you’re thinking, what in the world is this chick talking about?  Trust me on this one.  You’re probably more like a wildflower than you think!  Here we go:

  1. Stand Tall: In other words, be proud of yourself.  There is no one just like you in this big ol’world.  God carefully created you in his image {Genesis 1:27}.  He gave each of us different abilities, talents, and spiritual gifts.  It’s so hard in today’s society with all the Instagram, Facebook, + Twitter right at our fingertips not to compare yourself and covet someone else’s “perfect” life they’ve displayed.  Just as you’re wishing you had that girl’s gorgeous long legs, someone else is wishing they had your bubbly personality, sense of style or your ability to break the ice in a crowded room.  Always embrace yourself and each little thing that makes you unique.  EVERYONE has flaws, but focus on all the good things about yourself and your life.  Stand tall and have pride in you!
  2. Stand Out: My mama always told me to be myself and don’t follow the crowd. The older I get, the more I realize exactly what she meant. I believe in standing up and standing out for what I believe in + what is right, no matter the circumstances. Whether you’re in a “field of roses” or not partaking in gossip at work, saying no to people who aren’t positive for your life, forgiving someone after they’ve hurt you, or encouraging others daily.  Most of the time, the right thing is never the easy thing.  However, you will never regret standing out for what you believe in!
  3. Bloom: Always continue blooming.  Never get so content and comfortable that you don’t continue to grow.  Life has so much to offer us, gals.  We should always be blooming in all aspects of our lives.  There’s always room to grow in our walk with Christ {preaching to myself}, relationships with friends + family, work, finances, talents.  Be sure to continue blooming and bettering yourself daily.  Plus, try something new!  Get out of your comfort zone.  Take that vacation you’ve been looking into, try a new dish at your regular restaurant, pick up a new talent or hobby, and be open to blooming!
  4. Look For The Sunshine: In order to prosper and grow a flower looks for the sunlight.  We should always be searching for the “good.”  Even on our darkest days, there’s always light peeking in + something to be thankful for.  Strive to find the sweet, little things in everyday.  When you filter out the bad and always focus on the good, you’re gonna shine, darling!
  5. Let Your Roots Run Deep: Always remember where you came from, who helped you along the way and the lessons you’ve learned on your journey.  The deeper your roots are the stronger you’ll be, you’ll have more confidence, and trust in yourself.  Constantly remain grounded {in your faith, your marriage, your friendships, and your life}.  “Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith – that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God” {Ephesians 3:17}.  Be sure to let your roots run deep and always remain grounded in the love of Christ.

Little wildflower, if you remind yourself of these daily, you’re gonna bloom and be the most beautiful wildflower there ever was.

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Also, can we get back to how lovely this flower crown is?!  Two gorgeous wildflowers out of Georgia are hand crafting these beauties!  I absolutely adore mine.  You can custom design yours here.  I know Amanda and Alexa can help find the perfect one for you!  Plus, use the code: WILDFLOWER at checkout and receive 15% off your order!!!  Check them out on Instagram at @pearlsandpinkpeonies or @thedaintysouthco!

Dress {Original from Above Average Boutique}: Similar here + here |  Flower Crown | Bracelet {Original from Versona}: Similar here | Wedges {Original from Belk}: Similar here + here

Always be blooming,

Fallon

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26 Life Lessons in 26 Years

It’s my birthday week {whoop whoop}!  I love birthdays.  It’s the day you were brought into this world and I think that’s worth celebrating!  I can’t believe I’ll be 26 this year {insert ‘deer in headlights‘ look}.  People aren’t kidding when they say time flies the older you get.

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I’ve narrowed it down to some light-hearted, truthful, and fun lessons I’ve learned in 26 years:

  1. Always believe in yourself.  The devil will try to knock you down, but there is definitely something special about each and every one of us.  Focus on your strengths and talents.
  2. Life is always changing.  Some of it is expected, some of it is like a curve ball from left field.  Change can be a good thing; however, if you try to approach it with a positive attitude because that is something you can control.
  3. Start drinking coffee now, basically.
  4. Highschool is but a blink of your life.  Those bullies, mean girls and the gross cafeteria food will be history a few years after you graduate.  Don’t let a bad day determine the rest of your life.  You’ll look back and see it was just building character.
  5. Never wear your pajamas in public.  Just don’t people.
  6. Not all friendships last forever.  Like I said, life changes + people change.   You’ll just grow up and grow apart.  Good news, those special friends will always have a place in your heart, but you’ll make new friends with each chapter of your life.
  7. Always pray first then call your mama.
  8. Chances are, you won’t marry your first love.  Cry, eat some ice-cream, then move on.  God’s preparing you for a man he hand-picked just for you.
  9. Never hold grudges.  Learn how to forgive and forget early in life.  People are always going to disappoint you.  They are human {just like you} and nobody’s perfect.  You can’t ever be better if you’re bitter.
  10. Dogs are the best.  Nobody loves you more than your four-legged pal.
  11. Set goals and work hard toward them.  Don’t get so discouraged you give up.  Keep working and moving forward day by day.  You’ll reach them.  We can’t always see the big picture, but God does.
  12. Always be kind and humble to others.  We are each in our own valleys and battles.  You never know what someone else is going through.  An encouraging text, buying someone’s coffee, or a humble smile can go a long way.
  13. Whatever your 1, 5 or 10 year plan is, it most likely won’t work out that way.  Hate to bust your bubble.  Don’t live by an agenda every moment.  God has a plan for you and trust that.  Let things happen when they’re supposed to.  Don’t force anything.
  14. Learn to laugh at yourself.  Everyone makes mistakes.  Don’t take life too seriously {besides you’re pretty funny}.
  15. Have the least amount of debt as possible.  It’ll make your life, marriage and bank account happier.
  16. Do not be a workaholic.  Life is too short.  Be successful, but live within your “means.”  Don’t let work and money control you.
  17. When in doubt, at least put on mascara and blush.
  18. Always take lots of pictures.  That’s how you’ll remember those simple, special, everyday moments later.
  19. Make time for you and your spouse.  Even if you sit at home, eat pizza and talk about nothing.
  20. Travel every chance you get.  The best memories are made out of town!
  21. Always stop at that “hole-in-the-wall” cafe/deli.  They have the best food, even if there’s a hole in the floor.
  22. Spontaneously buy a puppy with your husband before you have kids.  They are just like a newborn and will teach you all kinds of patience.
  23. Show your parents you love and respect them every chance you get.  At 26, you’ve realized a lot of the sacrifices and things they’ve done for you.  You could never do enough to return the favor, but atleast try.
  24. When life gets hectic, busy and you feel like you’re drowning…take a me morning/afternoon/day.  You will need that time for yourself or you will get burnt-out on life in general.  Just breathe.
  25. No matter what everyone else is doing, always do what is right.  You’ll never have regrets and you’ll be glad you did later.
  26. Always put God first in your life and everything else will fall in to place.  Maybe not on your time, but His.

I’ve learned so much in my 26 years {some lessons harder than others}. I believe that’s what life is about; learning as you go.  Sometimes life doesn’t make sense, but put your faith in the Lord + follow His will for you and know it’s gonna be okay.  I’m still learning life lessons everyday.  I try to pick up the good of each lesson and keep on keepin’ on this journey called life.

26 and counting…,

Fallon

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