Heart to Heart

Birthdays and Bible Studies

I recently had a birthday.  The big thirty is getting closer each year.  Where does the time go?  If you know, let me know.  I gotta say, my favorite gift I received this year was a devotion book from my sister-in-law, Jennifer.  Unexpected, but totally needed.  Life gets busy, hectic, and sometimes just hard.  As a woman, daughter, wife, sister, and friend, expectations are high and responsibilities are overflowing just like my laundry.  We give so much of ourselves to everyone else, organizations, our church, our jobs, the list goes on.  This birthday gift simply reminded me to take a moment and make sure I’m giving back to myself.  We are spread so thin in the everyday hustle + bustle.  I needed a “check-up” on my relationship with the One who truly matters.  That my friend, is Jesus.

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So I begin to dig into this bible study, Finding I Am by Lisa Terkeurst.  Gotta be honest, it took a few devotions until I really began to relax and enjoy the study.  My heart and my eyes began to open to God’s presence in my life.  Grace and healing was poured over me for the next 6 weeks.  I loved doing the study with Jennifer.  Not only was she an accountability partner, but someone to share my favorite verses with, my weaknesses, and how it was growing + challenging me.  This birthday gift turned into a gift that kept giving for 6 weeks, y’all!  I absolutely fell in love with God all over again.

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When the study was coming to an end, Jennifer and I were both somewhat sad.  This had become a healthy routine to our day.  I loved having my cup of coffee and starting or ending my day devoting time to God’s Word.  We decided we couldn’t stop there.  We went to our local Lifeway and picked out another bible study.  This time, Armor of God by Priscilla Shirer.  Over the past couple months, the devotions had become regular conversation with my clients, friends, and family.  We now have some of the girls in our community doing the studies!  Isn’t it amazing how God works?!  Something as simple as a birthday gift has chain reacted into encouragement in our community and friendships.  If you would like to be a part of our Women’s Bible Study Group, please message me on our Facebook page HERE and I will get you connected, gal!

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Also, isn’t this floral top so precious!?  I love the print, colors, and material!  It’s one of the softest shirts I own.  During the sweltering summer, I’m all about light + comfy material!  I’ve had lots of people ask about my Journaling Bible.  All these details can be found below!  I hope you’ve been encouraged, felt like you’re not the only one struggling in your faith walk, been motivated, and enlightened on some great new devotions to dive into!  Girlfriends, life is tough, we’ve got to stick together!  I’m praying for you this week!

Floral Top {Cleo Madison} | Jewelry | Journaling Bible

Love,

Fallon

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Keeping it Southern

Many of you have been asking how the Southern Detour Boutique is doing.  It’s going just dandy! It is definitely keeping my mom a busy little bee.  She gets new clothes + jewelry in every week.  If you haven’t been by, you need to go {like run}!  They have been doing so well and enjoy seeing + visiting with all of you each day!

We have loved the loyal customers in our community!  We want to say, “THANK YOU” for supporting a local, small business!  Your shopping goes a long way and is truly appreciated from the bottom of our hearts.  We hope you all will get the chance to come see + shop our unique, vibrant, comforting, friendly, southern boutique.  It’s one-of-a-kind!

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Photo credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

Please be sure to follow along on our Facebook and submit your email at the top of this page.  You can find our store hours + location, plus stay up-to-date on giveaways, blog posts, new trends, and be the first to know when our shipments arrive!  Also, we have an exciting event coming soon {even more reason to follow SD}!!  Stay southern, friends!

Love,

Fallon + The SD Crew

 

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10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner {MEN, it’s February 14th}, I thought it would be perfect to re-share my ideas on how to improve your marriage.  I hope you get a little something from this for your honey…

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Now, by writing this post, I am in no way stating I have a perfect marriage, pointing fingers or saying you should take my advice.  These are things that work in my life and if they can encourage you, that is my purpose.  Marriage is something you have to work at everyday.  I am still learning so much about being married.  Erik and I have been married going on 5 years.  I am extremely proud of the relationship we have.

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I believe marriage is something holy, sacred and should be cherished.  Marriage is taken so lightly in today’s society.  Couples move in together, get married, affairs here, affairs there, get divorced, families torn apart, kids lives and world’s shaken.  I do not think marriage is something that should be taken so lightly.  Blunt, yes.  Honest opinion, absolutely.

It’s not a give & take type of bond or game that you share with someone.  I have learned {in these 4 short years} if you both want the other person to be truly happy and you strive to make that happen everyday, you cannot fail.

Here are 10 ways to improve your marriage:

  1. Prayer.  When we were getting married, my grandparents told me to always put God first in our marriage.  I believe this with all of my being.  Before you get married, pray.  Before you buy a home, pray.  Before you make big decisions together, pray.  Small decisions? Pray.  Before you go to sleep, pray!  I pray for my husband every night.  I pray for his job, safety, family, his relationship with God, mindset, and for us.  Prayer will always get you through tough times, but pray in the good times too.  Keep God center of your marriage and He will guide you, together.
  2. Communication.  I tell Erik everything.  Do I drive him crazy?  Yes, most likely.  We make our plans and decisions together.  If something is bothering me, I tell him.  Ladies, if you haven’t figured it out already, men are NOT mind readers.  It’s so much better to talk it out than to bottle it up and end up walking out.  Do not let situations escalate when you could have set time aside to communicate.  No matter how big or small the topic is, always talk things through with your spouse.
  3. Listen.  It’s comforting to know you have someone else to bear your burdens, share your happiness, carry your worry, and listen to your thoughts.  Sometimes all it takes is silence.  When Erik gets home I want to know all about his day, the good and the bad.  This is something I work at everyday.  I love giving my two cents.  I am learning to listen and give him my full attention more {I’m still working on this one}.
  4. Support.  When you believe in your spouse and let them know they have your support, it makes your relationship that much stronger.  Erik has listened to me babble on about my dreams and future.  Sometimes, as big as they seem, they feel that much closer knowing I have his support.  A lot of my clients wonder how I enjoy going to horse shows, clinics, and spending countless afternoons at the barn.  It’s because I support my husband and it brings me joy seeing him do something he loves.  Instead of thinking about self, think about your spouse and marriage first.
  5. Commitment.  When I married Erik I vowed in front of God, all of our friends and family that only death would do us part.  I meant that with all of my being.  When you enter into marriage, your mindset and heart needs to be completely clear and committed.  I made a promise that no matter what, we would make it work.  Sometimes in order to do this, you have to put your selfish desires aside.  You should never lose sight of the commitment you made with your spouse; whether you’re on the mountain top or in the valley, always be there for each other.
  6. Choose your battles wisely.  I learned early on not to “nitpick.”  In the grand scheme of marriage, dirty socks left on the floor and the toilet seat left up are nothing compared to 50 years of marriage.  It’s not worth arguing and ruining your night over dirty socks?  Really though.
  7. Find happiness in the little things.  It doesn’t take a dozen roses or candlelit dinner to make me happy.  Reminding myself of our blessings, coming home to a peaceful marriage, going out for breakfast, talking about our day, sitting in church together makes me happy.  It’s so easy to scroll through Pinterest or watch a movie and have false expectations of a real life marriage.  Always try to find happiness in your marriage everyday.  Do not compare you and your spouse’s relationship to anyone else’s.  Be your own kind of happy.
  8. Attention.  Life is busy.  Life is messy.  A lot of us feel like we probably work more than we are home.  Especially, if you have children!  Holy cow.  Ballgames here, dance recitals, practices, birthday parties.  There is always something to do!  I’ve learned in order to give your marriage the time it needs, you cannot say yes to every invite and event.  It’s impossible.  There are not enough hours in the day.  Erik and time spent with him is my top priority.  It may be a ridiculous busy week and something simple as running an errand together.  Was it fun?  Well, I wouldn’t necessarily call that fun, but point is…we were together.  We were able to talk, even if it’s small talk.  Just being together and giving each other attention is sometimes all you need to get through a tough week.
  9. Have fun!  Bills, payments, jobs, meetings, clients, the list goes on.  Life can be so serious and sometimes very stressful.  We pile our plates so high, we forget to have joy.  Sometimes we need to sit back, let the world keep spinning and enjoy each other!  This could be going out for coffee, a mini weekend vacation, going for a drive, or just nagging Erik until he starts laughing {at least that’s what I do}.  Always keep your spouse laughing and it makes the world spin a little easier.  Don’t get so caught up in your “to-do” list and forget to enjoy life and your marriage.
  10. Say, “I love you.”  I don’t care if you’ve been married 3 years or 30, it took love to get you that far.  Right?  You got married because you love that person.  Make sure they know you still do.  Every week, everyday, even sometimes multiple times a day {woah}.  Constantly remind your spouse of these three simple words.  It needs to be sincere, genuine and from your heart.  The word “love” is thrown around so frivolously today.  I’m talking about the real love that you don’t necessarily have to say and profess dramatically.  Our actions towards our marriage should be proving this statement daily.  But still, a little “I love you” can’t hurt, right?

If your marriage is going through a tough patch, there’s always sunshine after the rain.  If your marriage is rainbows and butterflies, get on your knees and thank the Lord.  I hope this post encouraged you, motivated you and reminded you there’s always room for improvement {always}.

If so, please feel free to share and leave me a comment letting me know!  I would love to hear your feedback.

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Happy Valentine’s Day,

Fallon

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Merry CHRISTmas!

This time of year is so joyful, hopeful, exciting, and humbling.  It is definitely my favorite season.  There are so many wonderful memories etched into my mind + heart of Christmas time.  I always look forward to making more memories every year with family and friends.  I love reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas.  Sometimes we rush the meaning of the most important day of history with all the hustle, bustle, gifts, parties, cooking, and planning.  I really love spending time dwelling on that first Christmas night.

It is so humbling to me that God would send His Son to be born in human flesh among a world full of sinners so we could one day be saved by His grace.  Gives me chills, folks.

“And in the same region there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.  And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear.  And the angel said to them, ‘Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.  For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.  And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.’  And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!'”  Luke 2: 8-14, ESV

Isn’t it such a beautiful, yet simple story?  It always, always brings tears to my eyes.  Can you imagine the fear the shepherds felt?  Can you picture Jesus being born in a little stable and laid in a manger?  The emotions of Mary and Joseph entering the world of parenthood?  Sometimes I imagine what it must have felt like to be present that night.  What a precious sight that must have been.  How amazing that God cares enough about a wretched sinner like me, that he would send His Son so I can one day have eternal life with Him in heaven.  I don’t know about you, friend, but if that doesn’t squeeze your heart, I’m not sure what would.

Christmas is a celebration of that wonderful night.  A reminder that someone will always love you, be there for you, care for you, listen to you, and has experienced every emotion you have.  It’s also a reminder that one day we won’t feel any hurt, sadness, pain, depression, anxiety, fear, bitterness, emptiness, and sorrow.  There’s everlasting life because God fulfilled His promise.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John 3:16-17

We’re all just walking each other home, friends.  Even in the dark days, we have hope and light.  Even in the valleys, we will one day be on the mountain tops.  God is with us every step of everyday.  If you ever feel alone or your faith feels small, just read the beautiful story of Christmas + the good news of life.

My family prays for peace, comfort, joy and happiness for your family this Christmas.  There are blessings all around us.  The biggest blessing we can ever receive is opening the door and letting Jesus into our hearts.  That my friend is a forever blessing.  Merry Christmas!

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Love,

Fallon and my little family

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What I Learned My First Year Of Blogging

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Photos by Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

Y’ALL!  I’ve been blogging at Southern Detour for a WHOLE YEAR!!  Holy cow, can ya believe it?!  Time has surely flown!  This is such a big accomplishment for me and Southern Detour!  I started this blog with hopes of sharing cute outfits, some encouragement, lots of adventures, tons of coffee, and the occasional cowboy.  I’ve been able to do just that and so much more…made friends, dusted off my writing skills, done lots of fun collabs + giveaways, learned about myself and what it takes to be a true blogger.

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Here are some things I’ve learned my first year of blogging:

  1. Work Hard – No one else is helping you achieve the success of your own blog.  It’s you and your computer at the end of the day.  Keeping a blog going takes a lot {and I mean, A LOT} of dedication, time, and perseverance.  I get up before work to work on the blog and sometimes come home from a 10-12 hour day at the salon to work on the blog again.  It requires a lot of work, but when the work is done, it’s worth it!  That’s a lot of work {ha}!  I’ve loved hearing feedback from my sweet followers who enjoyed posts and watching Southern Detour grow!
  2. Schedule and Plan – I am such a planner, so this one came a little easier for me.  I always tell people, the blog post I launched this week may have been written well over a month ago.  It’s all about scheduling ahead of time and staying organized.  Tip: I found the Later App for Instagram.  It has definitely saved me time in the long run keeping up with social media.  I can schedule posts in advance and not have to sit there for 10 minutes editing the picture and posting a caption while I’m at dinner with the cowboy or spending time with family at the barn.
  3. Be Original – I love reading other blogs for inspiration.  That’s all dandy, folks!  Make sure you know what your blog’s foundation is and don’t stray far from it.  I love reading fashion blogs and pulling inspiration, but I have to keep in mind, my blog is more than that.  I always strive to make sure every post has great quality, even my outfit posts.  There are a million fashion/style bloggers, so find something that makes yours original.  This is just an example, but applies to all blogs {food, travel, faith, or photography blogger, etc.}.  Be YOU because there is no one quite like you.  And you’re pretty darn special.
  4. Be Consistent – Decide in the beginning how often you’re going to post and stick to it.  I knew I would be working a full time job on top of blogging and I also lead a very busy lifestyle.  I chose once a week because I didn’t want Southern Detour to become stressful or controlling.  It’s been a year and the rest of my life hasn’t slowed down so once a week still works perfect for me!
  5. Be Still – I’ve learned in all the hustle, organizing, scheduling, and business of a blog, sometimes you just need to be still.  It takes some quiet time and stepping back to rejuvenate and reenergize yourself.  Sometimes I just don’t feel like writing.  Sometimes I draw a blank.  Sometimes I am too tired to think.  And that’s ok.  I’ve learned to take it one day at a time.  Blogging is a journey and sometimes it’s just fine to take a detour and come back later.  Don’t burn yourself out on something that should be fun and enjoyable!  Blogging is what you make of it!

I came across this quote and it perfectly explains why I love blogging:

“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans — because we can.  We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.  That’s why we paint, that’s why we dare to love someone — because we have the impulse to explain who we are.  Not just how tall we are, or thin, but who we are internally, perhaps even spiritually.  There’s something, which impels us to show our inner-souls.  The more courageous we are, the more we succeed in explaining what we know.” {Maya Angelou}

 

I just love that, don’t you?!  I’ve enjoyed sharing who I am and what I love on Southern Detour.  I am so glad my little blog is growing and prospering!  I pray over this blog and my followers.  I can’t wait to see just where this journey takes us!  Until then, celebrate ONE YEAR of adventures, detours, stories, and grace upon grace with me!  Heck, you should even go get ya a cupcake too!  Thank you for being a part of the Southern Detour community!  I couldn’t do it without you, friend!

Love,

Fallon

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