10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner {MEN, it’s February 14th}, I thought it would be perfect to re-share my ideas on how to improve your marriage.  I hope you get a little something from this for your honey…

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Now, by writing this post, I am in no way stating I have a perfect marriage, pointing fingers or saying you should take my advice.  These are things that work in my life and if they can encourage you, that is my purpose.  Marriage is something you have to work at everyday.  I am still learning so much about being married.  Erik and I have been married going on 5 years.  I am extremely proud of the relationship we have.

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I believe marriage is something holy, sacred and should be cherished.  Marriage is taken so lightly in today’s society.  Couples move in together, get married, affairs here, affairs there, get divorced, families torn apart, kids lives and world’s shaken.  I do not think marriage is something that should be taken so lightly.  Blunt, yes.  Honest opinion, absolutely.

It’s not a give & take type of bond or game that you share with someone.  I have learned {in these 4 short years} if you both want the other person to be truly happy and you strive to make that happen everyday, you cannot fail.

Here are 10 ways to improve your marriage:

  1. Prayer.  When we were getting married, my grandparents told me to always put God first in our marriage.  I believe this with all of my being.  Before you get married, pray.  Before you buy a home, pray.  Before you make big decisions together, pray.  Small decisions? Pray.  Before you go to sleep, pray!  I pray for my husband every night.  I pray for his job, safety, family, his relationship with God, mindset, and for us.  Prayer will always get you through tough times, but pray in the good times too.  Keep God center of your marriage and He will guide you, together.
  2. Communication.  I tell Erik everything.  Do I drive him crazy?  Yes, most likely.  We make our plans and decisions together.  If something is bothering me, I tell him.  Ladies, if you haven’t figured it out already, men are NOT mind readers.  It’s so much better to talk it out than to bottle it up and end up walking out.  Do not let situations escalate when you could have set time aside to communicate.  No matter how big or small the topic is, always talk things through with your spouse.
  3. Listen.  It’s comforting to know you have someone else to bear your burdens, share your happiness, carry your worry, and listen to your thoughts.  Sometimes all it takes is silence.  When Erik gets home I want to know all about his day, the good and the bad.  This is something I work at everyday.  I love giving my two cents.  I am learning to listen and give him my full attention more {I’m still working on this one}.
  4. Support.  When you believe in your spouse and let them know they have your support, it makes your relationship that much stronger.  Erik has listened to me babble on about my dreams and future.  Sometimes, as big as they seem, they feel that much closer knowing I have his support.  A lot of my clients wonder how I enjoy going to horse shows, clinics, and spending countless afternoons at the barn.  It’s because I support my husband and it brings me joy seeing him do something he loves.  Instead of thinking about self, think about your spouse and marriage first.
  5. Commitment.  When I married Erik I vowed in front of God, all of our friends and family that only death would do us part.  I meant that with all of my being.  When you enter into marriage, your mindset and heart needs to be completely clear and committed.  I made a promise that no matter what, we would make it work.  Sometimes in order to do this, you have to put your selfish desires aside.  You should never lose sight of the commitment you made with your spouse; whether you’re on the mountain top or in the valley, always be there for each other.
  6. Choose your battles wisely.  I learned early on not to “nitpick.”  In the grand scheme of marriage, dirty socks left on the floor and the toilet seat left up are nothing compared to 50 years of marriage.  It’s not worth arguing and ruining your night over dirty socks?  Really though.
  7. Find happiness in the little things.  It doesn’t take a dozen roses or candlelit dinner to make me happy.  Reminding myself of our blessings, coming home to a peaceful marriage, going out for breakfast, talking about our day, sitting in church together makes me happy.  It’s so easy to scroll through Pinterest or watch a movie and have false expectations of a real life marriage.  Always try to find happiness in your marriage everyday.  Do not compare you and your spouse’s relationship to anyone else’s.  Be your own kind of happy.
  8. Attention.  Life is busy.  Life is messy.  A lot of us feel like we probably work more than we are home.  Especially, if you have children!  Holy cow.  Ballgames here, dance recitals, practices, birthday parties.  There is always something to do!  I’ve learned in order to give your marriage the time it needs, you cannot say yes to every invite and event.  It’s impossible.  There are not enough hours in the day.  Erik and time spent with him is my top priority.  It may be a ridiculous busy week and something simple as running an errand together.  Was it fun?  Well, I wouldn’t necessarily call that fun, but point is…we were together.  We were able to talk, even if it’s small talk.  Just being together and giving each other attention is sometimes all you need to get through a tough week.
  9. Have fun!  Bills, payments, jobs, meetings, clients, the list goes on.  Life can be so serious and sometimes very stressful.  We pile our plates so high, we forget to have joy.  Sometimes we need to sit back, let the world keep spinning and enjoy each other!  This could be going out for coffee, a mini weekend vacation, going for a drive, or just nagging Erik until he starts laughing {at least that’s what I do}.  Always keep your spouse laughing and it makes the world spin a little easier.  Don’t get so caught up in your “to-do” list and forget to enjoy life and your marriage.
  10. Say, “I love you.”  I don’t care if you’ve been married 3 years or 30, it took love to get you that far.  Right?  You got married because you love that person.  Make sure they know you still do.  Every week, everyday, even sometimes multiple times a day {woah}.  Constantly remind your spouse of these three simple words.  It needs to be sincere, genuine and from your heart.  The word “love” is thrown around so frivolously today.  I’m talking about the real love that you don’t necessarily have to say and profess dramatically.  Our actions towards our marriage should be proving this statement daily.  But still, a little “I love you” can’t hurt, right?

If your marriage is going through a tough patch, there’s always sunshine after the rain.  If your marriage is rainbows and butterflies, get on your knees and thank the Lord.  I hope this post encouraged you, motivated you and reminded you there’s always room for improvement {always}.

If so, please feel free to share and leave me a comment letting me know!  I would love to hear your feedback.

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Happy Valentine’s Day,

Fallon

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Traditions, Cowboy Hats, and Popcorn

We recently made our annual trip back to Augusta, Georgia.  If you missed my post last year, check it out here and it’ll catch you up on the Augusta Cutting Horse Futurity.  We love this little weekend getaway.  It’s nice for Erik and Kirsten to sit back and relax instead of showing.  We watched the futurity finals, shopped the vendors, and snacked on double-dipped chocolate covered pecans + salty popcorn.

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Erik had been needing a new cowboy hat and found the perfect one!  They shaped it just for him.  I always love watching this.  Be sure to call Clay at Sombrero Brands if you’re in need of a fine quality cowboy hat {8179756247}.

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It was so nice to see friends we haven’t seen in awhile and try a new Mexican joint for lunch.  Checkout Tin Lizzy’s Cantina if you’re ever near one.  They have multiple locations in GA and SC.  Double thumbs up for their chips and queso + salsa.

I absolutely love traditions and making memories.  Another Augusta Futurity in the books for us.

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Hope 2017 has been good to you and your family so far, friends!  Now, where to next?!  Tell me about your upcoming trip in the comments below {I would love to read them}!!

Love,

Fallon

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Family, Adventure, and Frozen Yogurt

There’s just something about sand between your toes, island breeze in your hair, and reggae music in the background.  We’ve already kicked the new year off with adventure by taking a big family cruise!  I know it’s January and I’m pale as 2% milk, but why not?!

God must have been looking out for my pale being because it was cloudy and windy most of the trip.  We made the best of it by doing activities around the boat and taking an occasional nap.  We cruised on Royal Caribbean’s Oasis of the Seas.  It’s the largest ship in the world and it was pretty darn amazing!  They have a life-size carousel, boardwalk, central park with full grown trees/plants, an ice skating rink, 82 feet zip line, 2 rock climbing walls, and the list goes on.  We were there 8 days and I still didn’t see the entire ship.  I’m still trying to figure out how a boat that big can float?…

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One of my favorite things about a cruise is they really force you to relax and be present with each other.  You’re completely disconnected from your phone, schedule, work, and busy life.  They also offer you uh-mazing food every hour.  I literally have no idea how I ate that much, but I’m glad I did!

Our first stop was Nassua, Bahamas.  It was super breezy and cloudy so we decided to explore downtown.  It’s a great place if you’re looking for a name brand item.  They have tons of shopping.

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We headed to St. Thomas next.  It’s always been one of my favorites.  You’ve got mountains + beaches on the same island.  It’s soooooo beautiful.  Again, it was cloudy, but the weather was warming up.  We ventured in a taxi to Coki Beach.  Our driver was Gwyneth, a total hoot!  Her driving skills were intense; gripping to the rails for our lives one minute and laughing hysterically the next.  It was like a roller coaster ride with no extra charge.  The beach was gorgeous.  On the way back she showed us beautiful views of the island.  We tried fresh coconut {taste like a pecan if ya wanna know}.

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Our last stop was St. Maarten.  This is probably my favorite island yet.  It’s stunning views + crystal blue waters + colorful buildings are lovely.  The sun finally came out and we had perfect island weather all day.  We took the water taxi to the far beach where it was less busy.  We all swam and soaked the sun up {maybe a little too much}.  I got a fresh aloe back massage on the beach {take me back}.  We walked through the shops on the way back to the ship.  There was a stand selling fresh-made ice cream rolls, ever heard of those?!  SO GOOD.  He made the ice cream out of the milk and fruit of your choice.  If you go, get coconut milk with pineapple, bananas, and local honey on top.  Perfect snack if you’ve been on the beach all day.

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We made the most of our last two days cruising the sea.  We relaxed, played trivia, ate a lot, danced, Erik and my dad played in the Ping Pong Tournament, we watched the Belly Flop Contest, ate more food, shopped, watched a parade, and ate again.

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It was so nice to have my family and Erik’s parents together on a big trip.  We’ve never gotten to do that before and it was my favorite part of this vacation.  I enjoyed turning my phone off and spending quality time with everyone.  This trip definitely reminded me to do that more often.  Also, travel as much as you can + make memories everywhere you go, and if they have frozen yogurt, always eat two cones {Y.O.L.O.}.

Seeking Adventure,

Fallon

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Adventures of 2016

As 2016 comes to an end, I can’t help but reflect on how much fun we had this year!  So many trips, adventures, meeting new people, put our home up for sale, got a new puppy, somehow got my husband on a cruise ship, celebrated a year of blogging, kissed a dolphin, and made so many memories!  I’m reminded of how thankful I am of family, friends, and all the good, little things that surround me.  I am so grateful for another year to enjoy life and make the most of the moments we’re given.

I love hearing everyone’s resolutions and plans for 2017!  We’ll be bringing in the New Year casually with a frog-more stew and family time!  I don’t have any big resolutions this year, but I’ve set some goals for myself!  I want to be healthier, happier, and Southern Detour to continue growing in the direction God has planned!  A big thank you to everyone who encouraged, supported, and loved me through 2016!  Couldn’t have done it without ya!  I pray blessings for you and your family in 2017!  Make every day count, friend.

Love,

Fallon

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Merry CHRISTmas!

This time of year is so joyful, hopeful, exciting, and humbling.  It is definitely my favorite season.  There are so many wonderful memories etched into my mind + heart of Christmas time.  I always look forward to making more memories every year with family and friends.  I love reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas.  Sometimes we rush the meaning of the most important day of history with all the hustle, bustle, gifts, parties, cooking, and planning.  I really love spending time dwelling on that first Christmas night.

It is so humbling to me that God would send His Son to be born in human flesh among a world full of sinners so we could one day be saved by His grace.  Gives me chills, folks.

“And in the same region there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.  And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear.  And the angel said to them, ‘Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.  For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.  And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.’  And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!'”  Luke 2: 8-14, ESV

Isn’t it such a beautiful, yet simple story?  It always, always brings tears to my eyes.  Can you imagine the fear the shepherds felt?  Can you picture Jesus being born in a little stable and laid in a manger?  The emotions of Mary and Joseph entering the world of parenthood?  Sometimes I imagine what it must have felt like to be present that night.  What a precious sight that must have been.  How amazing that God cares enough about a wretched sinner like me, that he would send His Son so I can one day have eternal life with Him in heaven.  I don’t know about you, friend, but if that doesn’t squeeze your heart, I’m not sure what would.

Christmas is a celebration of that wonderful night.  A reminder that someone will always love you, be there for you, care for you, listen to you, and has experienced every emotion you have.  It’s also a reminder that one day we won’t feel any hurt, sadness, pain, depression, anxiety, fear, bitterness, emptiness, and sorrow.  There’s everlasting life because God fulfilled His promise.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John 3:16-17

We’re all just walking each other home, friends.  Even in the dark days, we have hope and light.  Even in the valleys, we will one day be on the mountain tops.  God is with us every step of everyday.  If you ever feel alone or your faith feels small, just read the beautiful story of Christmas + the good news of life.

My family prays for peace, comfort, joy and happiness for your family this Christmas.  There are blessings all around us.  The biggest blessing we can ever receive is opening the door and letting Jesus into our hearts.  That my friend is a forever blessing.  Merry Christmas!

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Love,

Fallon and my little family

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What Goes Around…

What’s that saying?  What goes around, comes back around…something like that.  When I was younger, I wore turtlenecks all the time {they were my grandma’s favorite}.  Y’all, the turtlenecks have made a comeback!  Except now with all kinds of new little trends: fringe, oversize, shoulder cut-outs, etc.

This is the first turtleneck I’ve worn in f.o.r.e.v.e.r. and I gotta say, I kinda liked it.  This blue was such a pretty tone and the cut-outs were fun!

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Are you into the turtleneck trend?  Feel free to let me know if you have any questions about this one in the comments below!  Hope you’re enjoying the winter season!

Blue Turtleneck Open Shoulder Sweater | Jewelry

Love,

Fallon

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Dear Santa… {SheIn Winter Wishlist}

Give me all the chilly nights, large cups of coffee, and Christmas lights!  I love everything about this time of year.  All we’re missing here in the South is a little snow!  I love bundling up and layering!  SheIn has some cute and affordable pieces that would be great under the tree this year!  Plus, they’re having 40-50% off specials + free shipping right now!  Click the photo if ya love it!

Sweaters

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Jackets

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Accessories

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Hope you can find something you like!  These are just a few of my favorites.  Y’ALL, I’m so excited for Christmas!  Sending you all the happy, joyful, Christmas vibes!

Holly-Jolly,

Fallon

 

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The Red Cardigan

Christmas is uh’comin’, y’all!  This cardigan would be perfect to wear to your family get-together or Christmas pictures!  The material is Viscose, which I have no idea what that is.  But what I do know, it’s the softest cardigan I have.  IT IS SO SOFT.  You get the point.  So not only is it super comfy, but how cute are the little fringe tassels on the bottom.  {Aw}  So Christmasy.  That’s a word, I’m sure of it.

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Photo Credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

See what I mean?  So Christmasy.  I told my photographer and friend, I really needed some snow for this shoot.  I loved pattern mixing this cardigan with stripes and plaid.  If you’re not feeling super Christmasy, this cardigan also comes in a neutral, beige color.  Basically, it’s cute, you need it, and it will look good on anyone.  Also, it’ll get you in the holiday mood!  Links below…

Cardigan | Pom Beanie Similar | Blanket Scarf

Merry and Bright,

Fallon

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Christmas TIME

I just stuffed myself with turkey and dressing a couple of weeks ago.  I’m putting my Christmas decorations out this week {I know, so late, the grand opening of the shop had me crazy}.  I’m buying peppermint mocha creamer as soon as I can get to the grocery store.  Ah, I just love this time of year.  I also love Christmas shopping and giving gifts.  Finding the perfect, suitable gift for someone is such a great feeling!  Hence, why I’m sharing the new addition to my jewelry collection!

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Photo credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

I like giving someone a gift they can actually use.  Everyone loves watches!  Jord’s Wood Watches would make the perfect Christmas gift!  They serve a purpose and these wood watches can be styled so many ways.  Plus, they have a men’s line too!  The quality of this watch is fantastic.  Also, they will size them in-house before they ship!  They are so friendly and cordial to communicate with if you have any questions.  They’ve got tons of colors + styles to choose from, so you can find the perfect one for that special person on your list!

I chose the Frankie Style Koa and Ash watch because the neutrals go well with my style.  I can wear this watch with anything + it can be dressed up or down.  They’ve got lots of different watches, ladies.  You can browse the women’s line here!  Hope you find the perfect one, just for you.

Because I love my watch so much, I’m partnering with Jord and giving all my readers a $25 gift code HERE!  Everyone wants to save money this time of year, so here’s your chance!

Love,

Fallon

This post was sponsored by Jord Wood Watches, but all opinions are my own.


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Hippie Little Dress

I hope y’all have enjoyed fall and are making the most of the beautiful days we’ve had so far!  The print on this dress is so pretty.  I love the colors and hint of subtle blue.  Paired with some tights and a floppy hat + booties, you’ve got yourself a fun outfit!  I wore this dress with black accessories to really bring the depth of fall/winter into the mix.  You could also pair this with wedges or sandals in the summer.  This dress can stay in your closet all year round!

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Photo Credits: Jennifer at Sweet E Photography

StyleWe is dishing out some pretty unique and sassy pieces!  Be sure to checkout their site and grab this hippie little dress while you’re there!

Dress | Leather Fringe Purse

Happy Shopping,

Fallon

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