10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage

Now, by writing this post, I am in no way stating I have a perfect marriage, pointing fingers or saying you should take my advice.  These are things that work in my life and if they can encourage you, that is my purpose.  Marriage is something you have to work at everyday.  I am young.  I am still learning so much about being married.  Erik and I have been married 3 years.  I am extremely proud of the relationship we have.

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I believe marriage is something holy, sacred and should be cherished.  Marriage is taken so lightly in today’s society.  Couples move in together, get married, affairs here, affairs there, get divorced, families torn apart, kids lives and world’s shaken.  I do not think marriage is something that should be taken so lightly.  Blunt, yes.  Honest opinion, absolutely.

It’s not a give & take type of bond or game that you share with someone.  I have learned {in these 3 short years} if you both want the other person to be truly happy and you strive to make that happen everyday, you cannot fail.

Here are 10 ways to improve your marriage:

  1. Prayer.  When we were getting married, my grandparents told me to always put God first in our marriage.  I believe this with all of my being.  Before you get married, pray.  Before you buy a home, pray.  Before you make big decisions together, pray.  Small decisions? Pray.  Before you go to sleep, pray!  I pray for my husband every night.  I pray for his job, safety, family, his relationship with God, mindset, and for us.  Prayer will always get you through tough times, but pray in the good times too.  Keep God center of your marriage and He will guide you, together.
  2. Communication.  I tell Erik everything.  Do I drive him crazy?  Yes, most likely.  We make our plans and decisions together.  If something is bothering me, I tell him.  Ladies, if you haven’t figured it out already, men are NOT mind readers.  It’s so much better to talk it out than to bottle it up and end up walking out.  Do not let situations escalate when you could have set time aside to communicate.  No matter how big or small the topic is, always talk things through with your spouse.
  3. Listen.  It’s comforting to know you have someone else to bear your burdens, share your happiness, carry your worry, and listen to your thoughts.  Sometimes all it takes is silence.  When Erik gets home I want to know all about his day, the good and the bad.  This is something I work at everyday.  I love giving my two cents.  I am learning to listen and give him my full attention more {I’m still working on this one}.
  4. Support.  When you believe in your spouse and let them know they have your support, it makes your relationship that much stronger.  Erik has listened to me babble on about my dreams and future.  Sometimes, as big as they seem, they feel that much closer knowing I have his support.  A lot of my clients wonder how I enjoy going to horse shows, clinics, and spending countless afternoons at the barn.  It’s because I support my husband and it brings me joy seeing him do something he loves.  Instead of thinking about self, think about your spouse and marriage first.
  5. Commitment.  When I married Erik I vowed in front of God, all of our friends and family that only death would do us part.  I meant that with all of my being.  When you enter into marriage, your mindset and heart needs to be completely clear and committed.  I made a promise that no matter what, we would make it work.  Sometimes in order to do this, you have to put your selfish desires aside.  You should never lose sight of the commitment you made with your spouse; whether you’re on the mountain top or in the valley, always be there for each other.
  6. Choose your battles wisely.  I learned early on not to “nitpick.”  In the grand scheme of marriage, dirty socks left on the floor and the toilet seat left up are nothing compared to 50 years of marriage.  It’s not worth arguing and ruining your night over dirty socks?  Really though.
  7. Find happiness in the little things.  It doesn’t take a dozen roses or candlelit dinner to make me happy.  Reminding myself of our blessings, coming home to a peaceful marriage, going out for breakfast, talking about our day, sitting in church together makes me happy.  It’s so easy to scroll through Pinterest or watch a movie and have false expectations of a real life marriage.  Always try to find happiness in your marriage everyday.  Do not compare you and your spouse’s relationship to anyone else’s.  Be your own kind of happy.
  8. Attention.  Life is busy.  Life is messy.  A lot of us feel like we probably work more than we are home.  Especially, if you have children!  Holy cow.  Ballgames here, dance recitals, practices, birthday parties.  There is always something to do!  I’ve learned in order to give your marriage the time it needs, you cannot say yes to every invite and event.  It’s impossible.  There are not enough hours in the day.  Erik and time spent with him is my top priority.  It may be a ridiculous busy week and something simple as running an errand together.  Was it fun?  Well, I wouldn’t necessarily call that fun, but point is…we were together.  We were able to talk, even if it’s small talk.  Just being together and giving each other attention is sometimes all you need to get through a tough week.
  9. Have fun!  Bills, payments, jobs, meetings, clients, the list goes on.  Life can be so serious and sometimes very stressful.  We pile our plates so high, we forget to have joy.  Sometimes we need to sit back, let the world keep spinning and enjoy each other!  This could be going out for coffee, a mini weekend vacation, going for a drive, or just nagging Erik until he starts laughing {at least that’s what I do}.  Always keep your spouse laughing and it makes the world spin a little easier.  Don’t get so caught up in your “to-do” list and forget to enjoy life and your marriage.
  10. Say, “I love you.”  I don’t care if you’ve been married 3 years or 30, it took love to get you that far.  Right?  You got married because you love that person.  Make sure they know you still do.  Every week, everyday, even sometimes multiple times a day {woah}.  Constantly remind your spouse of these three simple words.  It needs to be sincere, genuine and from your heart.  The word “love” is thrown around so frivolously today.  I’m talking about the real love that you don’t necessarily have to say and profess dramatically.  Our actions towards our marriage should be proving this statement daily.  But still, a little “I love you” can’t hurt, right?

If your marriage is going through a tough patch, there’s always sunshine after the rain.  If your marriage is rainbows and butterflies, get on your knees and thank the Lord.  I hope this post encouraged you, motivated you and reminded you there’s always room for improvement {always}.

Still a newlywed,

Fallon

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Fiesta in a Bowl

Because I love ya and I’ve always loved pico de gallo and salsa, I’m sharing this bright recipe with you for Superbowl Weekend.  I know everyone will be hosting parties and getting your big Sunday spread together.  This would be such a simple, healthy {for all you New Year’s resolution folks that haven’t thrown in the towel yet}, and yummy dip for you and your friends!  This is an easy recipe to whip up ahead of time for a get-together or have in the fridge all week for yourself {not that I’ve done that..uhmm}!

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The fun thing about homemade salsas…you can put anything YOU like in them!  I just picked a few {okay, a lot} of my favorite ingredients: cilantro {my husband, loves, loves, loves}, corn, black beans, orange pepper, red pepper, ruby tomatoes, jalapeño, onion, avocado, and limes.  Note to self: Pineapple is also amazing in this {you’re welcome}!

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First, I drain the corn and beans together in a strainer.  I let them sit and continue draining while I chop the rest of my ingredients.

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I am kind of picky about the way I dice my veggies.  I like for them to be the same size, for the most part.  It seems easier to me when you’re eating the salsa.  That way, you can get a little bit of everything on one chip!  After I’ve combined all the ingredients, I sprinkle generously with sea salt and black pepper.  Stir and add the juice of 2 limes.  Mix everything together really good.

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I always do a taste test {of course}.  Just to see if I need to add any more salt/pepper.

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Then put the salsa in an airtight container and refrigerate for an hour or so.  I like my salsa chilled!  We love the Santitas Tortilla chips in our household!  I am constantly in that container all week snacking!  It’s so easy and guilt-free!

Let me know what ingredients you would add to your salsa!  Enjoy!

Go Team!,

Fallon

Ingredients

1 can of sweet corn

1 can of black beans (can also do low sodium)

Small handful of cilantro leaves (chopped)

1 orange pepper (diced)

1 red pepper (diced)

1/2 small sweet onion (diced)

1 jalapeño pepper, remove seeds (finely diced)

Large handful of ruby tomatoes (diced)

1 avocado (diced)

Juice of 1-2 limes

Sea salt & black pepper

Instructions

  1. Drain corn and black beans.
  2. Combine all ingredients in a large bowl.  Season generously with sea salt and black pepper.  Mix together well.
  3. Add juice of limes.  Stir.
  4. Taste test.  Add more salt or pepper, if needed.
  5. Put in an airtight container and refrigerate for at least an hour.  The ingredients will marinate together the longer it sits!
  6. Enjoy with your favorite tortilla chips!
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Turn The TV Off & Put Down Your Phone

Sooo…you know how sometimes God has to slap ya right in the face to get your attention? 🖐 Yeah. That happened to me this morning.

I was on my computer working on the blog and checking emails. The TV was going with the latest news. I was texting clients, laundry was spinning, dishwasher was washing + giving Jax [our pup] occasional cuddles. {Multi-tasking at its finest, basically} What can I say?

All of a sudden…our internet stops working. Right in the middle of a task! Ugh! Are you kidding me?? No wifi 😳 Help! I tried to work on the wifi box thing…no good. Then the TV goes: “No Signal” 🙄 Seriously, I thought I’d broke them both. My hubby works for the local telephone co-op. I called him and told him to check on it…

In the meantime, the house got really quiet {weird}. I get in such a multi-tasking rush most days. There are a million things to do {always}. But this morning, the multi-tasking craziness stopped [sigh]…& I opened my Bible. I spent an hour indulging in God’s Word.

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Sometimes we need stillness, quiet, peace from the multi-tasking, emails and TV. Sometimes we need to be reminded to put our phones down and shut our computers to read God’s Word, go outside, just soak in what’s around us.

So, this morning was a great reminder for me. Was I happy about the Internet and TV taking a break? No. Did I need that? Yep.

Wanna know something absolutely hilarious and embarrassing? Come to find out…I forgot to pay our bill 🙈 Erik said, it happens to the best of us. So, it was actually my own fault that my multi-tasking stopped. But, I think God worked it out just fine.

Make sure you turn the TV off and enjoy your surroundings today. Also, don’t forget to pay your bills! 👌

Love,

Fallon

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Horses, Cowboy Hats and Boot Shine

We just got back from the annual Augusta Cutting Horse Futurity in Georgia.  Now you’re wondering, what in the world is that?!  Click the link or I can give you a quick definition here…a cutting horse is a horse trained in separating cattle from a herd.  Sounds simple, but it’s a very detailed, difficult and interesting sport {cows are tricky}.  It looks a little something like this–>

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My family loves this tradition.  It’s the same weekend every year in January.  It’s not too far from home, so it makes for a nice little getaway.  We get to see our friends, watch some of the most amazing, powerful cutting horses ever made, and shop a little!

Our weekend was filled with catching up with friends, keeping up with the scores, getting our boots shined, cowboy hats shaped, eating fried pickles and funnel cakes.  We were up early every morning and didn’t get to bed until late, but it was entirely worth it.  It’s such a fun time with my people.  I always love weekends like this where memories are made.

Plus, we got to see some snow Saturday morning!  It was such a pretty surprise to wake up to!

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We try to never pass up a weekend with family and horses.  The cowboy hat shaping and boot shine were just the cherry on top!

Love,

Fallon

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Horse Trailer Renovation {Part 1}

I love a good DIY project.  There’s just something about the satisfaction of “doing it yourself” and being sure of the great quality.  This past summer, we bought our first horse trailer.  As some of you may know, lots of horse trailers have living quarters.  This is where you can stay overnight in your trailer; some have kitchens and small sitting spaces.  After looking over a year, we found one in our price range that was perfect!

The trailer was older, but pretty well kept.  It had a few cabinets, loft space for a mattress and a small bench to sit on.  We were happy with our purchase.  We wanted something simple and affordable for the two of us.  It had a few minor maintenance issues that we would take care of when we got it home {nothing we couldn’t handle}.

Erik goes to trail ride with a buddy of his one weekend out of town.  A bad storm came up while he was there.  I get a call and he sounds just a little upset.  There is standing water all in the living quarters of the trailer {you’ve gotta be kidding me}.  We’d only had the trailer a couple months and we were already gutting it.  After completely dissecting the horse trailer, we find a defect on the roof.  Long story short, there is a huge leak in our brand new {well, new to us} horse trailer.  I was not at all a happy camper like I envisioned I would be months ago.

And…so…life goes on.  After throwing a small hissy fit, I got myself together and looked on the bright side.  Because, my friend, there is always a bright side.  This will be a fun project, right?!  For me and Erik to do together, joy!  I’ll get to pick things out and decorate.  It’ll be fun, right?!

So the caulking and insulation process began.  We had to get all the old, chipped, no good caulk off the roof.  Shoutout to my hubby, he was a champ at this!  {I mostly whined at how hot the roof was and how my arms got tired.}  We finally got the main leak fixed.  New insulation had to be measured, cut and installed for the sides and ceiling {I actually really helped out with this}.

We got these pretty new floors {yay, a glimmer of hope}!  Also, got some new carpet on the loft {note to self: carpet glue is very tricky}.

We decided on cedar wood for the walls and ceilings.  A fresh coat of polyurethane to protect the wood over time.

It’s been a slow process, but I know it will all be worth it in the end {I hope}.  I can’t wait to have this ultimate DIY renovation finished and get to finally enjoy our first horse trailer!  We’ve put a lot of sweat, brain cells, blood {no joke}, and time into this project.  There is still a lot to be done, but this trailer has come a long way!  I will keep updating you all on our progress.  I must say I’ve enjoyed my time with my husband and learning all kinds of new handy man things.  I feel like I could do most of this in my sleep now.  A big thank you to my dad, we couldn’t do it without you, your smarty pants and grand ideas!

From the bright side,

Fallon

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Crock Pot Buffalo Chicken Sandwiches

I am a HUGE crock pot fan.  It works well with our busy schedules and majority of the time, the recipes turn out great!  This has been one of our favorite crock pot recipes so far!  My husband {a man of few words} raved over the sandwiches!  They were so simple and easy, but so delicious with a kick.

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They taste even better than they look!  We had them again for dinner the next night!  That’s another plus about crock pot recipes…when there’s only two of you, there’s always leftovers!  Yum!

Love,

Fallon

Original Recipe: Let’s Dish

Ingredients
4-6 boneless skinless chicken breasts
1 (12 oz.) bottle buffalo wing sauce
2 tablespoons ranch mix seasoning
2 tablespoons butter
6 hamburger buns {I used Italian sandwich bread}
6 slices cheddar cheese
Ranch or blue cheese dressing

Instructions
1. Place chicken breasts in lightly greased slow cooker.
2. In medium bowl, combine the buffalo wing sauce and ranch seasoning.
3. Pour hot sauce mixture over chicken in slow cooker. Cook on low for 6-8 hours.
4. Shred chicken breasts in the slow cooker with fork. Stir in butter until melted.
5. Preheat broiler. Place slices of cheese on bun tops and melt under broiler for 1-2 minutes.
6. Pile buffalo chicken onto buns. Top with Ranch or blue cheese dressing. Enjoy!

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5 Local Restaurants You Should Be Dining in Conway, S.C.

I’m a small town girl, born and raised.  I’ve always been taught to support your locals.  My dad owns his own business locally, a few of my aunts have local salons, and some friends of mine own local shops.  There’s just something about going into a local cafe or diner, knowing the faces, knowing your waitress personally, and getting friendly, genuine service.  With our small town growing so fast, let’s remember these 5 restaurants that have history in Conway and are still thriving after all these years.

The Trestle Bakery and Cafe

{Images via Pinterest}

The Trestle has been one of my favorites since…well, forever.  Erik and I eat breakfast here almost every Saturday.  It’s quaint, filled with history, and their food is scrumptious!  It’s right on Main Street in Historic Downtown Conway.  They serve breakfast and lunch.  BUT, they also have a bakery, folks.  I think my mom, mother-in-law and I have sampled at least everything there once {maybe twice}.  Speaking of, I could really go for some of those chocolate covered strawberries right about now.

Donzelle’s Restaurant

Family owned; they’ve been serving up good, country cookin’ since 1962!  When you’re here everyone feels like family.  They have daily delicious lunch specials.  You feel like you’re at home and your grandma just cooked a Sunday feast!  Their service is friendly, fast, and never disappoints.  If you’re not already eating here regularly, you should be!

Rivertown Bistro

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If you’re looking for a nice lunch date with your gals or night out with your honey, this is the place!  It’s also located in Historic Downtown Conway.  The Bistro brings culinary artistry to Conway, but always stays true to it’s southern roots.  This is mine and Erik’s go-to for date night and we’ve ate here for special occasions numerous times!  I recommend the “Zucchini Boat” and any sushi!  It’s one-of-a-kind and also, family owned!  I always love the food and unique atmosphere!  Plus, gives me a good reason to get a little dressed up!

Jo Hibachi

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Because I love Japanese food and could eat it everyday, Jo’s Hibachi made the list!  They are family owned and the sweetest people!  Their food is cooked fresh to order and always so goooooood!  It’s an easy week night dinner for us!  If you haven’t tried their noodles yet, do it now!  Tell Jo and Pon I sent ya!

The Freeze Restaurant

Family style drive thru that has been around for decades!  When I was growing up it was known as Tastee Freeze.  They serve burgers, hotdogs, fries, ice-cream and my favorite this time of year, homemade vegetable soup!  I absolutely love this place!  Every time I go, it brings back so many memories of my childhood!  Located right outside of downtown Conway.  Swing by and get you a milkshake on the way home!

These are just several of my favorites!  Let me know if there are any local restaurants you and your family recommend!  If you’re planning to visit our little downtown, please check out these spots!  They are yummy!

Always hungry,

Fallon

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Can we be #real for just a sec?

Can we be #real for just a sec?

We are about {self} at some point, {all of us}.  We get so caught up in what we’re wearing, having our makeup just right, keeping up with calories and the latest trends.  Life is tough {amen}.

What if we did more of what John 3:30 tells us?  What if we decreased everyday?

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It’s not all about the clothes, the shoes, the gym, the lipstick, etc.  These things aren’t bad things, but they can only bring us temporary happiness.  The clothes eventually go out of style, shoes eventually become too worn, the gym routine eventually gets old, and lipsticks eventually run out.  Guess what doesn’t go out of style, doesn’t become worn, doesn’t get old and never {EVER} runs out?  My God and His love for me + you.

We must lay aside our selfish desires and wants that constantly consume us.  They cloud our vision and focus.  I find myself spending too much time, money and daydreams on these materialistic things often {guilty}.  We must be totally sold out and devoted to Christ.  He wants YOU and your attention.  Don’t get me wrong…I’m not telling you to quit shopping, quit wearing makeup {😳} and to stop working out.  I’m encouraging each and every one of you to find that balance.  I want my life to glorify Him in all that I say and do.

Clothes go out of style, but God is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.  Shoes become worn, but Christ washes our sins away and gives us life.  Gym routines get old, but the good Lord is refreshing and renews daily.  Lipstick runs out, but God’s love is never-ending.  Life is tough, but God’s grace is enough.

Now, go put on your favorite lipstick and do GOOD.

Decreasing daily,

Fallon

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I Love A Good Outfit

I just took a recent trip to Charleston, SC.  It’s beautiful there…and busy.  The shopping is great {lots of boutiques, my favorite}.  The weather was so nice I didn’t even have to wear 157 layers {yay}.  I wanted to share my outfit for my day of shopping with y’all…

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I could wear this top everyday.  It is so comfy and adorable.  I am all about detailing and unique touches to my outfits!  Lately, I’ve been drawn to the color blush.  It’s such a soft tone and still in the neutral category.  I am lovin’ it!  These jeggings are the best thing since sliced bread {seriously}.  No buttons or pockets {can I get an amen?!}!  They are like pajamas, except you can wear them in public!  My Jack booties were comfortable all day shopping.  I love a low heel, but they are so hard to find.  These booties have been wonderful this fall and winter!  I also wanted a backpack style purse for the weekend.  I knew it would be easier and not prohibit me from shopping {hands free}!  I loved this style with the fringe.  It was so boho chic and great for our day in Charleston!

I am linking my outfit details and other options that would pair well for a similar outfit!

Lipstick {Revlon-Black Cherry} Target, Top {Boutique} Jenns Southern Threadz {similar} Fashion Finds/A Head of Style Boutique Vestique, Jeggings {similar} Sam’s, Booties Nordstrom, Backpack {Boutique} Jenns Southern Threadz {similar} Urban Outfitters

I hope y’all are enjoying your wardrobe this winter!  Bundle up and most importantly, be yourself!

Love,

Fallon

 

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25 Fun Facts About ME

25 Fun Facts About ME {because I’m fun, right?!} and it’s the start of a new year:

  1. I am 25 years young.  My birthday is June 14, 1990.
  2. My favorite color is blue.  My least favorite color is purple.
  3. I am not a picky eater.  I love trying new foods!
  4. I love country music, specifically, George Strait.  He is the man.
  5. I do not watch R-rated movies.
  6. I love to travel.  If I was rich, I would travel every other week to somewhere new!
  7. I am very organized most of the time.
  8. I have never broken a bone {knock on wood}.
  9. If I could trade places with someone famous, I would choose Pioneer Woman {Ree Drummond}.  Her life, sigh.  I may stalk her sometimes…shhh.
  10. I love buying gifts for family and friends {if only I had a bottomless wallet}.
  11. I have a younger brother and sister.
  12. My favorite soda/pop is Mello Yello {I get it from my momma} and old fashioned Cream Soda.
  13. LOVE coffee {honey and a little creamer, please}!
  14. I am a total sucker for puppies.
  15. My favorite song is “Love is Everything” by George Strait. {go figure}
  16. My favorite thing to watch on TV is Food Network.  I secretly love to cook, but have little time to do so. {Poor hubby.}
  17. I could never live in a big city. {I try to never say never, but seriously, never on that one.}
  18. I hate making payments on anything.  My dad taught me all I know about finances.  Thanks, pops.
  19. Humble people are my favorite people.
  20. The most inspiring documentary I ever watched was, Unbranded.  Check it out Unbranded the Film <==
  21. I love candles.
  22. I believe family is very important.  It is a big part of our lives.  At the end of the day, they are all we have.
  23. I would love to homeschool my children one day.
  24. I love red lipstick!
  25. I am sarcastic {just sometimes, a lot}!

Love,

Fallon

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